How should we prepare for Nikah?
A successful marriage, and thus a successful family and subsequently a successful community begins well before the selection of a spouse! It begins with oneself first! Educating and preparing oneself in the formative years before marriage!
Who am I?
The crucial answer to recognise first is that one is a nafs (soul) within a body. One can only have a successful union with another human being if one’s nafs and body are first attuned to each other.
In Suratul Baqara, 2:148 Allah says:
“..And everyone has a direction towards which he/she turns – so turn towards the best ...”
One must first find one’s direction – nafs and body. The emphasis on finding a spouse can not only be on superficial external elements because it will conflict with the search which each nafs isprogrammed towards to find a deeper compatibility. The marriage will not be successful if the directions are totally incompatible.
Adapted from the book: "Nikah & Beyond" by: "qfatima.com"
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