Techniques of Foreplay
As far as the methods of mutual stimulation in foreplay are connected, the shari'ah allows the husband and the wife to see, kiss, touch, smell and stimulate any part of each other's body. Therefore, oral sex, as it is known in this part of the world is allowed. Imam Musa al-Kazim was onced asked, "Can a person kiss his wife's vagina?" The Imam said, "No problem."1 The only restriction is that no foreign object should be used. And this restriction is quite understandable: nothing can really substitute the things Allah has created in our bodies!
The restriction I am placing on the use of foreign objects is based on the following hadith. 'Ubaydullah bin Zurarah says that he had an old neighbour who owned a young slave-girl. Because of his old age, he could not fully satisfy the young slave-girl during sexual intercourse. She would therefore ask him to place his fingers in her vagina as she liked it. The old man complied her wishes even though he did not like this idea. So he requested 'Ubaydullah to ask Imam 'Ali ar-Riza about it.
When 'Ubaydullah asked the Imam about it, the Imam said, "There is no problem as long as he uses any part of his own body upon her, but he should not use any thing other than his body on her."3
In earlier discussion, we said that masturbation (i.e., self-stimulation of one's own sexual organ till emission of semen or orgasm) is not allowed. However, in case of married persons, there is no problem if the wife stimulates her husband's penis till the emission of semen or the husband stimulates his wife's vagina till orgasm. This is allowed because it does not come under "self-stimulation;" it is stimulation by a lawful partner. The Qur'an clearly says that, "The believers are ... those who protect their sexual organs by a lawful partner surely comes under the definition of protecting one's organs "except from their spouses."
1. As quoted in Sex and Destiny, p.94.
2. Wasa'il, vol.14, p.77.
3. Wasa'il, vol.14, p.77.
Adapted from: "Marriage & Morals in Islam" by: "Sayyid Muhammad Rizvi"
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