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Parents-Children Rights Against Each Other

Parents-Children Rights Against Each Other

Now that we have come to this topic, it would be proper to discuss some of the children-parents duties against each other as well as the quality of their relations. A child should never call his parents by their first names. He should not walk ahead of them or sit before they do. A person went to the Holy Prophet (SAWA) and said: What is the right of my child?

The Holy Prophet (SAWA) said:

191. “Choose a good name for him. Teach him good manners, and prepare him for a bright future.”

The Holy Prophet (SAWA) said:

192. “A good child is a source of happiness for man.”

The Holy Prophet (SAWA) also said:

193. “A child for his father is as a flower sent by God, with good smell. Surely Hassan and Hussein are my flower whom I have named after two tribes of Bani Israel, Shabr and Shubair.”
Fazl Ibne abi Qareh ha reported on the authority of Imam Sadeq (AS) :

194. “The Holy Prophet (SAWA) has said: Once Jesus (AS) passed by the grave of a man who was in torment. The following year when Jesus passed by the same grave, he noticed that the torment had been removed. He said: O Lord! last year when I was passing by the grave of this man, he was in torment but he is not now! God said: A good child has been left of him who guides people and gives refuge to orphans. For this reason, I have forgiven him his sins.”
Then the Holy Prophet (SAWA) said:

“The heritage a believing man leaves for God is a child who worships God after him.”
Imam Sadeq (AS) quoting Prophet Zakaria in verses 4-6 of the Quranic Chapter, Mary says:

“.....Therefore grant me from thyself an heir, who should inherit me and inherit from the children of Yaqoub, and make him, my Lord, one in whom thou art well pleased.”

It has been reported on the authority of Holy Prophet (SAWA)

195. “Whoever has four sons but does not name one of them after me has treated me unkindly.” Suleiman Ja-afari says: I heard Imam Kazem (AS) saying:

196. “Destitution never enters a house in which there are the names of Mohammad, Ahmad, Ali, Hassan, Hussein, Taleb, Abdullah, or Fatima (among women).

197. “Whenever Satan hears someone calling Mohammad or Ali, he will be melted as lead.”

Imam Reza (AS) says:

198. “Whenever a son is born into our family, we name him “Mohammad” for a week. After that, we can change the name or keep it.”

Imam Reza (AS) has also said:

199. “Choose good names for your children, for on the Day of Judgment, you will be called with the same names, saying: O such and such person rise up to your light! O such and such person, rise up! You have no light.”

Mohammad Ibne Yaghoob reports on the authority of Imam Sadeq (AS):

200. “When your wife has gone pregnant for four months, place her in the direction of Qiblah, give a gentle blow to her side and say: O God! I have named him Mohammad. In that case God will make him a son. If you keep this name, God will give him blessing and if he changes the name, God may take or leave him.”

The Holy Prophet (SAWA) has said:

201. “Should anyone having a baby on the way intends to name him Mohammad or Ali, God will give him a baby boy.” Whenever Imam Zainal Abedeen (AS) was informed that a child had been born to him, he did not ask whether it was a boy or a girl, rather he would say: Is the infant healthy and without any deformity? If the answer was positive, he would say;

202. “Praise is due to Allah who did not given me a deformed child.”

Imam Moosa Kazeem (AS) has said:

203. “A man who sees his successive child before his death, is lucky. Then he said: God has shown to me my successor. The Imam was referring to his son. Imam Reza.”

Imam Sadeq (AS) has said:

204. “God will send blessing upon a father who has a great love of his children.” A man said to Imam Sadeq (AS): To whom should I do good? 205. “To your parents.” He said: They have passed away. The Imam said: * * “Treat your children fairly.”

Imam Sadeq (AS) has also said:

206. “Love the children and have mercy on them and whenever you give them promise, keep it, for they consider you as provider of food.”

Imam Sadeq (AS) has also said:

207. “Whoever kisses his child, it will be a virtue for him. Whoever makes his child happy, God will make him happy on the Day of Judgment. And whoever teaches his son the Holy Quran, parents are called to give them two garments from whose light, the face of the inhabitants of paradise will become bright.”

A man came to the Holy Prophet (SAWA) and said: I have never kissed a child. When the man went away,

the Holy Prophet (SAWA) said:

208. “This man, in our opinion, is an inhabitant of Fire.”

One day the Holy Prophet saw a man from ansar (Helpers) kissing one child and leaving the other, so
he said:

209. “Why don’t you observe equity between them?” A man said: I went to Imam Moosa Kazeem complaining of my child.

The Imam said:

210. “Don’t beat him rather don’t speak to him for some time but let it not be too long.” The Holy Prophet (SAWA) drew his hand on the head of his children and his grandchildren every morning.One day when he was praying with people, he shortened the last two Rakat and when the prayer was completed some one said to the Holy Prophet: O Messenger of Allah! You shortened the prayer, have you received my revelation?

The Holy Prophet (SAWA) said:

211. “What is wrong with it?”

They said: You shortened the last two Rakat. The Holy Prophet said:

“Didn’t you hear the moaning of the child?” In another Hadith, the Holy Prophet has been quoted as saying:

“I feared that the child’s father might be preoccupied with him.”

The Blessings of Having Daughters

Imam Sadeq (AS) has said:

212. “Surely Prophet Ibrahim (AS) called on God to give him a daughter to weep after his death.”

The Holy Prophet (SAWA) has said:

213. “What good offsprings are the girls! For they are kind, obedient, sympathetic and having blessing with them.”

215. “Whoever curses his child, God will afflict him with poverty.”

Imam sadeq (AS) has also said:

216. “Girls are as benefaction but boys are as riches. On the Day of Judgment, there will be reward for the benefaction but riches will be questioned of.” The Holy Prophet (SAWA) has said:

217. “Whoever has three daughters or three sons, paradise is his due.” It was asked: O Messenger of Allah, how about two? The Holy Prophet (SAWA) said: “The same is true with two.” It was asked: O Messenger of Allah, how about one? The Holy Prophet said:

“The same is true with one.”
The Holy Prophet (SAWA) has also said:

218. “Whoever has three daughters or sisters and is patient in taking care of them until they get married or die he and me are as these two fingers on paradise - at this time, the Holy Prophet referred to his index and middle fingers.”
It was asked: O Messenger of Allah, what happens if they are two? The Holy Prophet (SAWA) said: “The same is true with two.” It was asked, how about one?
The Holy Prophet said: “The same is true with one.”

A man to whom a baby girl was born and seeing he was angry, Imam Sadeq (AS) said:

219. “What will you do if God says to you: Shall I choose. The Imam said:

“Now God has chosen a girl for you.

About the boy whom Khidr killed as mentioned in verse 81 of the Quranic Chapter, the Cave:

“So we desired that their Lord might give them in his place one better than him in purity and nearer to having compassion.”

Imam Sadeq (AS) said instead of that son God gave them a daughter from whose generation, seventy prophets came.

4- Kinsfolk

The Holy Prophet (SAWA) has said:

220. “I recommend ties of kinship to those who are present or absent and every one of my Ummah being in the loins of men and wombs of women till the Day of Judgment even if there is a gap as long as a year between them, for ties of kindship is part of religion.”

The Holy Prophet (SAWA) has also said:

221. “One side of Sarat (bridge which the righteous only can cross on the road to paradise) on the Day of Judgment is trustworthiness and the other is ties of kinsfolk. One who has been trustworthy and has observed ties of kinsfolk, crosses the bridge and goes to paradise, however, one who breaches the trust and is heedless of relatives can not cross the bridge, for his other deeds will not avail him and Sarat will throw him into fire.”

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