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How can you best create a loving relationship between brothers who are three years apart in age?

by Dennis and Barbara Rainey

How can you best create a loving relationship between brothers who are three years apart in age?

 

Barbara: We have really worked hard on this with our two boys, who are very different. Their interests are different, their personalities are different, they look different, they are different in school. One thing they do have in common, however, is that both are very competitive, so they tend to butt heads a lot!

 

During the last few years before our oldest left for college, one thing that made a difference was they developed a common interest—hunting with Dennis. It was something they share together without competing. That helped to forge their friendship.

 

I have also tried to cast a vision for our boys about the future. I've reminded them, "Someday you are both going to be grown. You will always be brothers. You may not always have these other guys as friends, but you will always have each other. You can choose to be friends or you can choose to be enemies. You can choose to try to be kind to one another, or you can choose to be mean, tacky, and ugly."

 

I know they don't see the big picture yet, but I believe this has struck in the back of their minds. Deep down inside they both really do like and respect and love each other, and they'll see this as the years go by.

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