Conception and Acts not Recommended
It is important to note that many of the acts mentioned in this section are similar to those outlined in the Sexual Etiquette section, with the addition of how it affects the conceived child.
As some actions have a negative effect on the child such as spite against the Ahlul Bayt (as) 109, it is recommended that the acts mentioned below are refrained from:
1. Looking at the private parts of the woman during the actual act, as this leads to blindness in the child. 110
2. Speaking during the actual act (with the exception of dhikr of Alla-h (swt) ), as this leads to dumbness in the child. 111
3. Having henna on (the man), as this leads to effeminacy of the child (i.e. a girl has characteristics of a boy and vice versa). 112
4. Thinking of or desiring another woman during the act, as this leads to insanity of the child. 113
5. Making love in the presence of a child, who can either see, or hear the sounds of the act, as this results in that child never being delivered (from the fire of hell) and becoming an adulterer. 114
6. Making love when someone is awake in the house that can see, or hear the sounds of the act, as this results in the child never being delivered (from the fire of hell), and becoming an adulterer. 115
7. Making love standing, as this results in the child having a bed-wetting problem. 116
8. Making love on the rooftop, as this results in the child being hypocritical, and a heretic (innovator). 117
9. Making love under a fruit tree, as this results in the child being an executioner and a leader of oppression. 118
10. Making love directly under sunlight, as this results in the child being poor, even until his death. 119
11. Making love when the man is muhtalim (i.e. become in the state of janabat during his sleep) and before doing Wudu- or Ghusl, as this results in the child becoming insane. 120
It is important to also keep in mind the other Makru-h acts during normal sexual etiquette (as mentioned in Chapter 2: Sexual Etiquette). These are:
1. Having Qur’an or the dhikr of Alla-h (swt) on you.
2. Making love bare (without a covering).
3. Making love on the road or in a boat.
4. Facing, or having one’s back to, the Qibla.
5. Refusing to have sexual intercourse (for various reasons).
Once the woman has conceived, it is recommended to refrain from making love without Wudu-, as this results in the child being miserly and inwardly blind. 121
109 Biha-r al-Anwa-r, vol. 39, pg. 278, no. 87
110 Wasa-il ash-Shi-‘a, vol. 20, pg. 122, no. 25197
111 Ibid., vol. 20, pg. 121, no. 25195
112 Ibid., vol. 20, pg. 125, no. 25205
113 Halliyatul Muttaqi-n, pg. 112-114
114 Wasa-il ash-Shi-‘a, vol. 20, pg. 133, no. 25223
115 Niya-zha- wa Rawa-bith Jinsi- was Zana-shui-, pg. 64
116 Halliyatul Muttaqi-n, pg. 112-114
120 Wasa-il ash-Shi-‘a, vol. 20, pg. 148, no. 25271
Adapted from the book: "From Marriage to Parenthood; The Heavenly Path" by: "Abbas and Shahin Merali"
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