3 to 5 age range: This is the age range that parents can take advantage of because the child is still like a blank page and still does not have any “sexual knowledge”. In this phase parents should start to aware the child of their private part and its privacy by telling them to cover up, not to show it off, not to let anyone touch it or look at it, nor should they look at someone else’s, in a way suitable for them to understand. The Prophet (pbuh) said “It is not permissible for parents to look at their child’s private nor is it permissible for the child to look at the parents' private” and the Prophet also said “May Allah curse the looker and looked at (naked)”(1). After understanding the privacy of this body part they should be aware of predators, so they should be alert that if anyone tries to touch them they should not allow it and they must tell the parents right away. Parents also must stay alert to any suspicious activity or people. A final and important step in this stage is to plant modesty and shyness about sexual activity and the body parts which will be very useful in coming stages. The importance of this implanting can be seen in the sayings, for example Imam al-Sadiq (a.s) stated “Whoever does not have modesty (shyness) shall not enter paradise”(2).
1. Wasail Al-Shia v2 p56
2. Kanz Al-Uma’l v3 p125