How to Handle Divorce Anger?
Anger is a normal emotion in the healing process in any divorce, but it becomes destructive when turned into rage and vindictiveness. Here are a few ways to get it out!
Steps
1 Write it out. Often putting into words how you feel about the process, and your ex, is like taking a weight off your shoulders. It's now spilling from your mind onto paper.
2 Shout it out. Take a drive deep into country and yell with all your might. It's amazing how good you'll feel.
3 Talk it out. At first, talking can be very therapeutic. Speak to a trusted family member or friend, but do not, under any circumstances, console with your children, regardless of their age. They are not the right person to talk to about divorce issues.Constantly talking about your anger can be deconstructive so keep yourself in check.
4 Think about what it is that you are angry about and at whom? Being retrospective about the role you played in the relationship can help you remove some of the anger.
5 Choose your battles carefully and let the small stuff go. You are going through a lot; getting worked up about the small stuff will take the focus and energy off the big stuff.
Tips
- If you think you need professional help, by all means get it.
- Writing your anger out periodically can help clear your mind so you can enjoy the good stuff in life.
- Find something to do just for yourself, everyday, that you know always makes you feel good- a walk, gardening, working out or playing cards with friends.
Warnings
- Anger can build and become destructive if you don't do something about it. So do something about it.