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Backbiting

Let us talk together about "Backbiting"

Backbiting is the same, tale bearing calumniating or parsimony.

I will tell Mama!



Whenever you reveal some body's secret before an other
person you are busy in backbiting. Parsimony some
times damages others but most of the times make
them face difficulty.

Mummy! Brother spilt his milk upon the table!

oh No!



Some people commit backbiting because they wish
to draw others attention. They imagine that by
backbiting they would succeed in drawing the
attention of others towards themselves. But
parsimony does not get you the attention of
others which you need. Thus you must
not commit backbiting to achieve
others' attention.

Mummy! Brother has not
gathered up his game items!

My brother forgot to gather up his game items.
Perhaps, if I inform mother about it, she would
attend to me more than the brother!



Some people commit backbiting to show off that
they are better than others. They want to show
others as bad ones, so that they themselves
appear as nice persons. Therefore, you
must never commit backbiting just to
show that you are a good child.

When I tell mother that my brother has taken liberty
with the box of sweets without permission, she
would find out that I am not like my brother and
do not go for the sweet box. This way perhaps
she may think I am better than my brother!

Mama! Brother has gone for the sweet box!



Some people commit backbiting since they, due
to much slackness and laziness, do not solve
their problem. And they want that someone
else must solve their problems.
It is better that you must endeavour to the
possible extent to solve your problems
on your own, and do not seek others help.

If you do not give it to me I will ask Mummy
to force you to give it to me!



Some people commit backbiting to harm others.
They wish to create difficulty for others.
But you must not do a thing to harm others.
Therefore, never at all slander and backbite
others just to involve them in difficulty.

I can not avoid telling such a
thing to Mama, my brother
would definitely confront problem.



Persistent and continued backbiting may annoy
your Papa and Mama. In such case possibly
they may loose their tolerance and temper
and get nervous by your conduct.

Mama!
My brother broke the flower pot.

So much do you speak ill of your
brother that I am tired and fed
up of it. If you do not stop this
I will punish you.



Similarly the one whom you slander backbite
continuously will get annoyed with you and
not play together any longer with you.

Do you want to play
together with me?

No, not at all you
backbite too much.



Now you know that backbiting harms you and
those around you. But this does not mean
that you must never tell a thing to anyone.
For example, if some body's life is in
danger then you must definitely inform others.

Mama, my brother sitting in
the car, is playing with it.

Very well, I will get him out of the
car and thank you as well!



Similarly if some one's property and wealth
is in danger you must inform him.

Mama, brother is drawing
lines upon the wall.

Very well, I will at once stop
him from doing that and
thank you as well!



To know it that whether you should tell a thing to
others or not you must firstly question yourself

- Is this informing for the sake of helping an other person?
In this case there is nothing bad.

-Does informing aims at harming that person?
In this case do not do it.

Oh! incidentally my breakfast
fell down upon the floor!

I don't know whether to inform
my mother about it or not ... .



Before going for backbiting someone
ask yourself another question as well:

Have I done every thing possible to help out?
Never at all backbite anyone till such time
you have done every thing possible to
help the person concerned.

Let me clean this place before Mama
gets annoyed and you too will not
face any difficulty.



It is very important that you must treat others in the
same way you wish to be treated by them.
If you see some one committing a fault think,
ponder, and see if you were in his place what
kind of treatment would you have desire from others.
Try to understand why the person concerned
commits that fault. Help that person to get
him do what is correct, particularly when
he needs help.

Let me help you!



You do not like others to backbite you.
This is a good reason and logic that
you also must not backbite others.

I am much grateful to you for the help
extended. From now onwards I too
shall try not to backbite you any more!



Therefore, the best policy would be to consider
backbiting legal and fair only when the life and,
or, the properties of others be in danger. Or
then the object of it be helping an other
person or supporting him and the
safety of the properties of others.