- Teach the Child to Think
- Treat the Child as an Adult
- Allow the Child to Speak
- Page 5
- Let the Child be a Child
- Spare the Child from Inferiority Complex (Part 1 of 3)
- A Tale of Slippers
- Spare the Child from Inferiority Complex (Part 2 of 3)
- Spare the Child from Inferiority Complex (Part 3 of 3)
- Intruct the Child Once Only for Better
- The Child's FIrst Participation in a Religious
- The Child with Culture of Reading is More
- The Child and his Concept of Allah swt
- The Culture of Talking to Allah swt
- The Child let Sulking Ceases Sulking
- Gaining Vision from Family History
- School Enrollment with a Spring-Board
- Smart Shoes and the Child
- Childhood Trauma
- Slip of Expletives in Conversation - As a Habit
- Foster Charitable Nature in the Child
- Childhood Nickname can Stunt Personality
- Disciplinarian Parents on the Wrong Footing
- The Child's Books & Buddies
- Allow the Child his Moments of Privacy
- Save the Child from Risk of School Antipathy
- Make the Child Understand Prejudice
- Who Is A Stereotype ?
- Handle the Child's Fragile Trust with Care
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Let us consider a pertinent example: The father with severe coughing is alarmed to find that his small child has also started coughing. He is not only relieved but also amused when assured by the doctor that the child was imitating him -and what a "natural" actor for his age! Another example: The small child clumsily walks with a pair of father's slippers on, and often loses balance. The family seeing his interest and labour in the use of slippers buy him a pair of his size which he uses for an hour or longer until the novelty of the new slippers (like a new toy) wears off.
Then the child ignores the pair of his comfortable size and resumes the use of his father's -because it is not the slippers f which are the point of focus for him.
The child therefore expects from the parents nothing less than an affectionate acknowledgement and approval of his single-minded adoration of the parents and imitation of their behaviour. He -equipped by his own trust in himself -trusts them.
With such a position of trust, however, it is often the parents who can cause unknowingly the rise in the condition gradually and steadily in the child above the normal level and place the first fateful layer as the base for an inferiority complex. Once this occurs, the base then attracts a pile up of more layers, one after the other, from out- side the home -in school, sports ground, in meetings, debate -and the ugly edifice of the complex will have been raised.
Normally it is not possible for the parents or others to detect the condition in a person nor attribute any particular behaviour of the moment to the influence of the complex. What is worse is that the person who undergoes the nagging belief that he is being seen small or unimportant also believes that the condition is normal with others too, as victims, in the society.
However, the condition varies from person to person in traits and also in degrees (that is, in the number of layers) among those who are subject. Those who grow learning not to attach undue importance to the glitters of this transient world instead cultivate the conviction of a better life in the Hereafter are the persons can very well adjust themselves in their adult life and wear off the condition.
Sijidah, if its significance is well understood, can, for example, serve as an antidote. The face, the best visible part of the body is brought down to the lowest level possible where the leg, accustomed to dirt, tread; and then intoned is the moving testimony: that "All Glory to My Lord only - the Exalted" -while all other human beings - His slaves -are lowly and insignificant except for what He bestows on them out His Grace. No wonder, there appears no inclination to lift up the face from the spiritually soothing posture of Sijdah but then for every next Sijdah the head has to be once again!.
The Bible too mentions about the Sijdah practiced by the previous Prophets appropriate occasions. How surprising that a person of whatever station of life c through his profound humbleness to his Lord enjoy a sense of superiority in the society in that respect and dictate values in his relation with others on the position strength derived from that humbleness.
"The nearest position of man's servitude (a bondsman) to Allah is when he is in t state of prostration (sijdah)". Hadeeth of the Prophet. And then, the holy Qur'an also repeatedly questions us if we, the mortals, have n traversed the earth and seen what have remained of those in the past who thought themselves to be mighty and ever-lasting. and sensed themselves superior in material terms during their time of pomp in this life.